Childbirth is a very tiring process. In fact, not a few women who have to risk their lives while going through childbirth. Support from those closest to him can certainly help him through the recovery period. However, there are some things that should not be said to women who have just given birth, you know.
When visiting mothers who have just given birth, you should be careful if you want to make comments. Your intentions may be good and are meant to be supportive, but choose your sentences wisely.
Avoid sentences that can offend a new mother. This is because childbirth is a process that is not only very draining, but also emotional. Therefore, it is natural that mothers who have just given birth tend to be more sensitive.
Sentences You Should Avoid
Breastfeeding and caring for a newborn is not easy. Although it sounds trivial, the wrong words can make a new mother feel stressed and anxious.
So, as a form of support for mothers who have just given birth to quickly go through the recovery process, avoid saying the following sentences:
1. Normal delivery or caesarean?
There is an assumption that cesarean delivery is easier because the mother does not need to experience pain during the opening process. In fact, both normal delivery and caesarean, a mother both struggles to give birth to her baby into the world.
A mother may give birth by caesarean section because she had certain problems during pregnancy, such as preeclampsia, narrow pelvis, or breech position of the baby.
However, whatever the process of giving birth, this sentence does not need to be asked. Instead, support the mother so that she recovers quickly after giving birth.
2. Is the baby breast-fed or formula-fed?
Every mother has a desire to breastfeed her baby. However, for some mothers, breastfeeding is not an easy process due to several problems, such as sore nipples, swollen breasts, difficult latch on, or stress, so that the breastfeeding process is not smooth.
Therefore, the question of whether the baby is breastfed or formula-fed can offend mothers who may have difficulty breastfeeding their babies. In fact, this question can make a new mother feel that she is not a good mother
3. How come you still look pregnant, huh?
After giving birth, the mother's stomach does not automatically shrink immediately. It can take a few weeks for the mother's body to return to its pre-pregnancy size. Therefore, you should not give words or comments related to the mother's physical form, let alone to impress body shaming.
4. How come does the baby look skinny?
This is also one statement that is best avoided. Newborns who look small and thin could be because they were born prematurely or have just been treated in the NICU for certain conditions.
If you mention it, the mother's feelings may be disturbed or even stress the mother.
5. Do not sleep all the time. very lazy, the hell!
It has been mentioned earlier that childbirth is a very tiring process. Therefore, it is natural that new mothers need time to recover with plenty of rest.
Not only that, the mother's struggle does not stop when she gives birth to a baby. After giving birth, mothers will definitely be exhausted from having to breastfeed, look after, and take care of their newborn babies. She also has to change a diaper or soothe a baby when it's fussy.
Remember, if you can't help ease the mother's busy schedule with the baby, at least you can't say anything that would make her sad or anxious.
Give Support Through Spoken Sentences
Instead of busy questioning something or saying a sentence that makes him feel sad, say a few words that can lift you up mood new mother. Some examples of these sentences include:
You are great!
Praise for a new mother will certainly mean a lot to her. The process of giving birth is a very difficult thing to go through. Let the mother hear these words from you and those around her so that she feels excited.
Thank goodness your baby is healthy and perfect!
If the baby is born in good health overall, it would be great if you give a compliment. For example, "Thank God, I'm so glad your baby was born healthy and perfect."
This will make the new mother feel more relieved and calm, and help her to always be grateful for the presence of the baby.
You look beautiful, ok!
It could be that after giving birth, both the shape of the mother's body and face will look a little different from before. This can occur due to changes in the body during pregnancy as well as various physical challenges that are passed during pregnancy such as difficulty sleeping and fatigue.
Compliments such as "You look more fresh and beautiful", will help new mothers to feel more confident.
Being a mother is not easy. Therefore, we should be kind and not add to the burden of a new mother with words that can offend her feelings. If it's hard to say a compliment, you can simply congratulate the baby on the birth.
now, already know, right, the sentences that should not be said to mothers who have just given birth? So, don't get me wrong, okay?
