Are Mother and Father still proud to apologize to their children when they do something wrong? In fact, apologizing to children when they do something wrong can provide a good example to shape the child's character. you know. However, don't just apologize, okay? Come on, see how here.
There are still many parents who feel uncomfortable, reluctant, or embarrassed to admit mistakes made to their children, so they are reluctant to apologize. They consider that this attitude is a sign of weakness that can reduce the child's respect for parents.
In addition, not a few parents still think that admitting mistakes and apologizing to their children can make them lose control of themselves, and are worried that their children will act arbitrarily.
How to Apologize toon Children
Actually, apologizing when you do something wrong is a mandatory attitude that must be done by anyone, not least by parents to their children.
Instead of reducing respect, this attitude actually teaches children to dare to apologize if they make a mistake, admit mistakes, and understand the importance of honesty.
In addition, setting an example of always apologizing when you make a mistake can also strengthen relationships, instill an attitude of mutual respect, and foster a sense of responsibility, and empathy in children.
Seeing the many benefits of apologizing, Mom and Dad need not be ashamed to do it, yes. There are various appropriate ways to apologize to your little one that Mother and Father can apply, namely:
1. Apologize sincerely
When apologizing, speak with sincerity and a gentle tone. While saying sorry, look into your little one's eyes, and rub his head. This shows that Mom and Dad are serious about apologizing to him.
Avoid sentences like, “I'm sorry for yelling at you. But this won't happen if you tidy up your own toys." A sentence like this is not a sincere apology. Admit the mistakes of both of you without having to bring up the actions of your little one that might be the trigger.
2. Explain why the error occurred
Explain the reason why Mom and Dad made this mistake. Make sure the explanation can be understood by the Little One, yes. For example, say, "I'm sorry, son, for accidentally throwing away your drawing paper while cleaning the room." Or "I'm sorry son, Mother was impatient and shouted when she reprimanded you."
3. Apologize if you make the slightest mistake
Even if it's just a small mistake, Mom and Dad don't hesitate and hesitate to apologize to your little one. This will also get him used to behaving like that when he makes mistakes to other people, such as friends or relatives.
Besides being a good way to educate children, setting an example like that can also make children more polite.
4. Understand the child's feelings and offer consequences
When Mom and Dad make mistakes, the Little One may feel disappointed or angry. Well, at this time it is very important to understand his feelings well. Don't let it be because of the little one sulk, Mom and Dad actually scolded him.
Try to offer consequences for the mistakes Mom and Dad made. However, offer good consequences, yes. For example, by saying, “I know that you are waiting for me to come home early. I'm sorry, Dad, I didn't keep my word and let you down. Now, how about we watch a movie together?”
After admitting mistakes and apologizing to your little one, as much as possible, Mom and Dad don't do it again, okay? Remember that children are excellent imitators. Therefore, set a good example so that your little one can act like that too.
Throw away the shame of apologizing to your child when Mom and Dad make a mistake. In addition, also practice good habits and avoid various bad habits that may be imitated by your little one, such as irritability, criticism, or frequent complaints.
If Mom and Dad still find it difficult to say sorry or find it difficult for your little one to accept the apology that Mom and Dad have said, it never hurts to consult a psychologist who is specifically dealing with children's psychological development problems.
