In addition to the mother, fostering a father-daughter relationship is also very important in a child's life. Although most fathers are busy at work, there are some moments that can be used to improve their relationship with their children.
Father is an important figure that every child needs. In addition to earning a living to meet economic needs, a father must also be a good role model for his children. Fathers are expected to be able to form good characters in their sons, as well as to be good male figures known to their daughters.
However, a son of a certain age may feel jealous of his father because of the emotional closeness of the father to the mother. This condition is called the Oedipus complex and is normal in boys.
These are the Benefits of Fostering Father and Son Relationships
The closeness between father and son is very influential on the growth and development of children. Some of the benefits that can be obtained are:
1. Improve children's intelligence
Children who are close to their parents, especially fathers, tend to be smarter and have good grades in school. The love given by the father can create a sense of calm and security in the child, so that he can be more focused and enthusiastic about learning at school. This learning motivation will help in increasing children's intelligence.
2. Cultivate children's self-confidence
Unconsciously, a child is embedded in the value that he is someone who is valuable because he knows his father loves him. Children who have good self-confidence will be able to appreciate and love themselves more.
This positive character can make children able to socialize better with the people around them. Not only that, a strong self-confidence will make children more alert and always confident that they can complete new tasks or challenges well.
3. Train children's emotions to be more stable and avoid negative behavior
Children who get enough attention from their father tend to have a stable emotional condition, feel safe, and dare to explore the surrounding environment.
In fact, a study proves that the involvement of fathers in educating boys can keep them from negative behavior. Boys will look to their fathers as role models in shaping their character's identity as men.
4. Help develop children's talents
Lack of time spent with children can cause parents not to know the talents and potential of the child. This will make it difficult for parents to direct their children's interests and may even force children to develop their children in an area that they do not really like.
Therefore, it is important for parents, including fathers, to be fully involved with children's activities. This will allow parents to ascertain what the child's talents really are and direct them as best they can.
5. Prevent mental disorders
Father's intervention in the growth and development of children can prevent mental disorders in the future and prevent early puberty, especially for girls. Praise from a father to a daughter can shape her into a confident adult woman.
In addition, a study also proves that a strong bond between father and son can make children more adept at controlling stress when they grow up compared to children who have bad relationships with their fathers.
How to Build a Father and Son Relationship
The presence and role of the father is very important for the child, so you need to build a good relationship with the little one. The following are tips that can be applied to build closeness with your little one:
1. Start when the child is born
You have started to be able to build closeness with your little one since he was born. Involve yourself in his life from the start by taking an active role in helping to care for him, such as changing diapers, holding him, or calming him when he cries.
The more time you spend with him early on, the easier it will be to bond with him later.
2. Create fun moments with children
Try to create fun moments with your little one, such as being involved in teaching them to read, write, exercise, ride a bicycle, fish, do homework, or other things that are beneficial for them. In this way, you can find out your little one's talents and potential.
3. Be a good listener
Listen to whatever your little one is saying, whether it's about dreams or the complaints he feels. Listening can be your way of showing affection, so your little one will feel valued and comfortable with you.
4. Say a sentence that makes him excited
Be a father figure who is always present and needed when your little one "falls down". Give full support to your little one when he experiences failure. Give him a hug and sentences that can encourage his enthusiasm for success, for example, "I'm proud of you. It's okay to fail today. You can try again later, okay?”
The father-daughter relationship is something that must be built from an early age. After a long day at work, you may feel too tired to take care of your little one or play with him. However, believe that the tiredness will disappear when your love is returned with an expression of affection from your little one, even if it is just a hug.
In addition, a good father-daughter relationship can not only make children feel comfortable, safe, and excel in school, but in the future they can also make them a good person when they grow up. On the other hand, if the relationship between father and son is not harmonious, then this can cause the child to experience daddy issues.
Try doing the tips above to build a good relationship between you and your little one. If you are experiencing difficulties or there may be problems between you and your child, don't hesitate to ask a psychologist for advice. Remember, it's never too late to start good intentions.
