Tantrums too much found on kids, but you can occurs in adults. Tantrums in adults are not just a common emotional problem, but can be a sign of certain mental disorders.
Tantrums are emotional outbursts that occur when a person's wishes are not fulfilled. This condition can be recognized by the appearance of symptoms in the form of a tense facial expression, speaking in a high tone and loud voice, restlessness, frustration, anger, and moving hands quickly.
In some cases, adults who have tantrums may vent their anger with aggressive behavior, such as violence or breaking things.
Tantrums in adults can be caused by many things, including:
- Wrong parenting style as a child.
- Have experienced physical or verbal abuse.
- Suffering from certain mental disorders, such as bipolar disorder, depression, borderline personality disorder, autism, PTSD, and ADHD.
- Drug abuse.
Dealing with Tantrums in Adults with Emotion Management
There are several ways that can be used to deal with tantrums. One of them with emotion management (anger management). The following are some emotion management tips for dealing with tantrums:
1. Find the trigger
The first thing to do is find out what triggers your anger. That way, you can more easily find a solution to relieve it and determine the right strategy to prevent it.
2. Relaxation
Relaxation techniques by regulating breathing and imagining pleasant things can also be used to deal with tantrums.
When you have a tantrum, take a few deep breaths, then say to yourself some comforting words, such as "everything will be fine" or "this will be over soon." This method can also be combined with imagining the things that make you most happy.
3. Calm the mind
When angry, people tend to think excessively, irrationally, and do not think about the consequences of their actions or words. This will make it easier for him to say harsh words that further aggravate the situation.
If you have the urge to tantrum, try taking a short break to calm your mind, such as doing a technique butterfly hugs. Also, consider the negative consequences that may occur if you express your anger in a negative way.
When the mind is calm enough, then say what you feel. However, pay attention to how it is delivered. As much as possible avoid words that can offend or hurt other people's feelings.
4. Divert energy to positive things
If anger is taking over you, try to distract it by doing something positive, such as exercising. Instead of swearing or acting rudely, venting your anger with exercise will certainly be much more beneficial.
When a tantrum feels like it's about to appear, try to calm yourself down by doing light exercise while at the office or just walking for a while, breathing fresh air around the house or office, swimming, or taking a yoga class.
In addition to preventing bad things that might happen if a tantrum recurs, exercising will also make the body healthier, relaxed, and reduce the stress that arises when a tantrum bothers you.
5. Don't hold grudges
It's not easy, but forgiving or accepting the thing that triggers a tantrum is one of the best ways to relieve it. If anger is expressed in a negative way, then the consequences can befall you later on.
If you are able to forgive the things that trigger tantrums, in the future you will find it easier to prevent or deal with tantrums when they flare up.
6. Insert a joke
When you're in a situation that could trigger a tantrum, come up with silly humor that makes you laugh and forget about it, such as watching stand up comedy or jokes on the internet. By laughing, the anger that will explode can be suppressed.
However, as much as possible avoid jokes that use harsh words or sarcasm that can offend others, because that is the same as venting anger in an unhealthy way and can make the condition worse.
7. personal time
Taking time to be alone or keeping a distance from other people for a while can also be a way to deal with tantrums. This is necessary because sometimes it is the environment or people around you that make you upset, sad, or disappointed.
While taking time for yourself, also do things that always make you happy.
8. Talk to Friend
If you have a friend who understands and can always calm you down, then sharing things that make you angry can be very helpful. By releasing the worries and burdens in your heart, the emotions and tantrums you feel will definitely be reduced.
Some of the tips above can be tried to relieve tantrums. But if it doesn't work to relieve the emotions and tantrums you feel, try to consult a psychologist.
Adults who have trouble with tantrums or have difficulty controlling their emotions often need psychotherapy. In determining the right treatment, a psychologist will help you find out what is the root cause of your tantrum.
If needed, the psychologist may also suggest psychological tests (psychotes). After the results of the psychological test come out, the psychologist will explain what caused your tantrum and help you control your emotions to prevent tantrums from coming back.
If there are indications of mental disorders, such as depression, bipolar disorder, anxiety disorders, and PTSD, the psychologist may refer you to a psychiatrist for further treatment.
