When a child makes a mistake, some mothers can unknowingly let go and immediately scold their child. However, did you know that there are bad effects that can happen to your little one if they are often scolded?
As children get older, there are behaviors that can test patience. Sometimes, it's natural that one or two behaviors can trigger your mother's emotions, especially if your little one can't be given good advice.
However, keep in mind that scolding, yelling, or maybe swearing at your child is not the right solution. In fact, a sentence from a parent that is unexpectedly painful for him can have a bad effect on him. Instead of understanding the mother's advice, the child may experience psychological trauma that can interfere with his mental and intellectual development.
The Impact of Frequently Scolding Children
If you feel emotional and want to get angry, you should try to hold back the anger that is about to come out. The following are bad effects that can happen to a child if he is often scolded:
1. Children become timid and not confident
When your child makes a mistake, it doesn't mean you have the right to scold and yell at him, right? When the mother is angry, the little one may be quiet. However, he was silent because he felt afraid and threatened.
This can cause the Little One to become a cowardly person, you know, Bun. In addition, being scolded too often can also reduce self-confidence because the little one feels that what he does is always wrong in the eyes of the mother.
2. Children's brain development is disrupted
You may think that just scolding won't have the same physical effect as hitting. However, did you know? The brain of children who are often scolded can experience developmental delays until their size becomes smaller than average. So, scolding a child too often can actually have a physical impact.
The part of the brain that is most affected is the part that processes sound and language. This can happen because the brain tends to process negative information and events more easily than positive ones. In other words, this part of the brain becomes "blunt" because it digests information that does not trigger development more often.
3 Children experiencing depression and mental disorders
Scolding your little one might make you feel heard or appreciated. However, actually by being scolded, the child does what he is told to do out of fear, not out of respect. This can be said to be classified as behavior bully.
In addition to fear, children can also feel worthless, sad, disappointed, and hurt. This of course can have a negative impact on his mental health. Over time, children who are often scolded can develop depression.
Later in life, children may find an outlet to express their negative emotions by self-destructing, for example using illegal drugs.
4. Become a grumpy figure in the future
Forged with anger continuously can cause children to have mental and behavioral problems later in life, for example, children can become more aggressive figures. In addition, children also think that getting angry or cursing is a normal response when faced with problems.
So, children will imitate this too, either to friends, teachers, or people around them. In fact, children may become fond of fighting or hitting frequently when things don't go their way. In the future, it is not impossible for him to do this to his partner and child.
Tips for Not Easily Angry at Children
nowIn order not to get angry easily at your child, there are some tips that you can apply, namely:
- Inhale deeply and then exhale, and repeat several times. Make yourself calm when your little one makes a mistake. Remember that his mistakes are a learning process for him.
- Instill in Mother's mind that scolding children is not the solution to a problem.
- If your anger escalates, try to find other activities to distract yourself first, such as listening to your favorite song.
- Tell your little one what he can and can't do calmly but firmly. Give an explanation that is easy for him to understand.
- Do not forget to always trust the child and appreciate the child for what he does.
By knowing the bad effects behind often scolding your child, from now on you can practice to control your emotions, yes. Screaming at a child is actually not something that is absolutely not allowed.
However, you must know the limits for getting angry and the limits for stopping and showing affection for your little one. If he makes a mistake, giving a light punishment is okay, but you are also recommended to give a reward when he does a good achievement or action.
Try to be calmer when the child makes a small fuss. If after applying the tips above, you still can't control your anger, it's a good idea to consult a psychologist.
