Sentences spoken by parents have a great effect on children. Now, Don't let words with good intentions turn out to have a negative impact on your little one's feelings. Come on, know what sentences parents need to avoid.
Sentences that may sound normal to parents can be painful for children. Therefore, parents need to think carefully about the impact of the words conveyed, especially when scolding children.
If a child is hurt, it is not impossible that he will become a disobedient child and stay away from his parents. In addition, children can also become personal, often feel guilty, disappointed with themselves, and even feel that they are worthless.
Variety Kphrases that parents need to avoid
Mom and Dad are not alone. Almost all parents must have experienced regret for accidentally saying something that might hurt their child's heart. So that this doesn't happen again, make sure you avoid the sentences below:
1. “Don't disturb Mother!”
Mother may have said this sentence to her little one while busy doing household chores or resting. Sentences like this shouldn't be taken for granted, Bun. If you hear it often, your little one can feel that you don't want to be close to him or you don't love him.
2. “You how come shy/talky/naughty?”
If you often say this to your child, promise not to repeat it again, okay! Sentences like this can hurt your little one's heart and change the way he sees himself. As a result, he may make this negative label an identity for him, so that he actually becomes shy, chatty, or naughty.
3. “You make Mother dizzy!”
By using sentences like this, you subconsciously want your little one to feel guilty so that he wants to change. However, do you know that this sentence will only worsen the atmosphere and relationship with the child.
In fact, sentences like this can make children easily anxious, insecure, and low self-esteem, because they consider themselves responsible for other people's feelings.
4. "Why are you here?"
Children's behavior is sometimes incomprehensible. However, asking a sentence like this won't do him any good and won't help you understand it.
This kind of treatment can actually make your little one embarrassed, feel guilty, and afraid of not being accepted. In fact, what you should do is look for the problem that is causing his behavior, not make your little one feel that he is the source of the problem.
5. “Why are you not like your brother?”
Mother, do not say this sentence to the child. Comparing children, especially with their siblings, will only make the child not confident.
In addition, the relationship between siblings will also tend to be difficult to get along if they are often compared. Therefore, Mothers must understand each child's shortcomings, because they do grow according to their own pace and readiness.
Using Positive Sentences in Children
Every family has a parenting styleparenting) each. However, it is better if the parenting applied can build mutual respect and appreciation, which is reflected in the words spoken to each other.
Therefore, try, come on, Bun, to replace negative sentences into more positive in the following ways:
1. Show enthusiasm
Invite your little one to tell stories about his daily life, so that he gets used to expressing his feelings. For example, “The teacher said, you scored a goal at a soccer game? I want to hear the story, dong!” That way he will be confident and know that he is worthy and deserves attention.
2. Iremember the consequences of his actions
In advising children, do not say sentences that make him pessimistic. For example, “Mom has told you many times not to wake up late, son! If this continues, you will not get ranking!”
Instead of saying like that, it would be better if Mother reminded the consequences of her actions. For example, “It's a half hour drive to school, son. So if you wake up at this hour, you should be able to explain the reason to the teacher and be ready to be punished, OK?”
3. Mrecognize and accept the child's feelings
Whenever your little one is feeling emotional, be it angry, sad, or annoyed, it is better to invite him to recognize and accept the emotions he is feeling. That way, over time he will be able to express his feelings in words that other people can understand.
You can help her by saying something like, "You're sad, aren't you, yesterday's test score didn't live up to expectations? It does not matter. We'll learn more later, okay?"
4. Convey calmly if there is an unacceptable child's attitude
If at any time your little one is upset to the point of being unkind, don't immediately scold him with emotion. However, reply calmly by saying, "I was sad when you slammed the door," or, "Instead of you slamming the door, I would be very happy if you would talk to me about your problem."
Through calm communication and a positive atmosphere, the child will feel cared for and the mother can discuss what should be done to manage her emotions well.
5. Mask for help when busy
Instead of Mom saying, 'Don't bother Mommy!' when you are busy, it would be better if the mother politely refused the little one's request and asked for help from relatives or household assistants to look after the little one for a while.
When your child is old enough, you can tell him, “You have to do something as soon as possible. You can draw for a bit, okay? When we're done, we'll go together."
Although it sounds simple, words have great power in educating children. The words that parents say to their children are the seeds of the child's own nature and character. Positive words will grow into positive traits and vice versa.
By recognizing some sentences that parents need to avoid as described above, it is hoped that Mom and Dad can implement friendly and positive communication with children.
However, it is understood that no human is perfect. Parents can say something wrong even without the intention to hurt their child. If you feel like you've said something that made your child sad, angry, or turned away from you, don't be shy about apologizing.
If the impact is indeed very severe and makes the child experience emotional or behavioral problems, Mother and Father can consult a psychologist who specializes in dealing with problems in children.
