Just like adults, children also have different personalities. Quiet children often withdraw from the crowd and are more comfortable doing various activities alone. Is this normal and what causes it?
Having a quiet child is not something you should worry about, because every child is born with a different character and temperament. However, you need to be alert if this condition makes your little one shut down and harbor emotions, either with his family or the surrounding environment.
Why is the Child Silent?
Bun, there are several reasons that can cause children to have a quiet nature or suddenly become quiet when they weren't before. Some of them are:
1. Shy
Shyness is one of the traits that can be possessed since childhood. So, it's normal for your little one to be shy and quiet more often, especially when meeting new people. Usually, he just needs more time and guidance to want to interact and get to know other people.
Shyness can be a problem if it makes him feel depressed and interferes with his daily life. For example, because they are too shy, they are afraid to leave the house or go to school. Because of that high sense of shame, Mother's baby becomes more quiet when in a place that makes him uncomfortable.
2. Introvert
One of the reasons your little one is quiet may be because he has a personality introvert. A child who introvert They will feel tired more easily after doing a lot of social interactions and need some quiet time alone to get their socializing energy back.
Mothers need to remember, introverted personality is not a disorder in one's social functioning. So, it doesn't mean children introvert can't have friends, huh. They actually tend to be able to form strong and deep relationships, but only with a few friends are suitable for him.
If you feel that your little one can be active in socializing sometimes, but sometimes also prefers to be quiet and alone, it could be that he has an ambivert personality type.
3. Psychological trauma
Shocking events or hurtful treatment from others can change a child's personality to become quiet. The simplest example is when a child is often scolded.
Too often scolded can make children become more quiet and reluctant to gather with other people. Because, he thinks he will do wrong to other people. As a result, children tend to be insecure and prefer to be alone.
4. Having a speech delay (speech delay)
A quiet child can also be the result of a delay in his speech or speech delay. One of the disorders that can cause it is mental retardation.
When experiencing this condition, the child will have difficulty understanding what other people are saying or conveying what he wants to say, so he will prefer to be silent than people who do not understand what he is saying.
How to get a quiet child to socialize
Quiet children may find it difficult to socialize with other people. To help her, there are some tips that you can apply so that she doesn't often be alone, including:
- Often invites him and accompany him to gather with family, neighbors, and peers.
- Give your child an understanding that having time to be alone is good, but interacting with others is also important for building social relationships.
- Frequently invite children to chat and express emotions with topics that he likes.
- Give your child more attention and don't scold him often.
- Always involve children in various activities inside or outside the home. This can trigger him not to just stay in the room.
Having a quiet child is not a bad thing. In fact, a quiet child may have a personality that is more careful, thinks more deeply, and is understanding of others.
However, if the child's quiet nature is considered abnormal, accompanied by difficulty in carrying out other activities, or comes suddenly after an incident or for no apparent reason, it is better for you to consult your child's condition with a child psychologist to get the right solution.
