There is no parent who does not love their child. However, sometimes loving children is not distinguished from spoiling children. In fact, pampering children too much is not a good thing, you know, Bun.
Not a few parents are willing to do anything for the happiness of their little angel. Even so, parents need to be careful, because this can sometimes spoil the child, and this is certainly not good for the development of his personality.
A spoiled child usually wants to be cared for and put first by both parents. Everything he wants must also be immediately obeyed. If his wish is not granted, the spoiled child will not hesitate to tantrum, get angry, and cry wherever he is.
A series of bad effects of pampering children
Wanting to fulfill a child's desire is indeed something that parents instinctively feel as a form of expression of affection. However, of course, a healthy and educational way of expressing affection is needed.
If Mom and Dad love your little one by always fulfilling everything he wants, there are bad effects that can happen to his personality, including:
1. Always dependent and not independent
Spoiled children will depend on their parents. This is because the figures of Father and Mother are always there when he needs them. As a result, children can develop into individuals who are not independent, even until they are adults. This of course can be difficult for him, both while still at school and after work.
2. It's easy to give up when you fail
Because they depend on their parents, children never learn to try to achieve their desires. In addition, because usually everything he wants is always available, the child may find it difficult to understand that everything he wants can not always be there.
nowFinally, when the child experiences a failure or difficulty later, he will become a person who easily gives up. Children can also be someone who tends to be more easily disappointed with themselves and feels they do not have the ability to face a problem.
3. Unable to be responsible
It's okay to pamper your little one once in a while, Bun. However, if Mom and Dad never refuse his wishes and always give him what he wants, he will grow up to be a person who is less disciplined and responsible.
For example, because they feel that everything they want is always given, the child will neglect to take care of their toys. If a toy breaks, he thinks he can always buy a new one. This irresponsible character is very likely to be carried over into adulthood and will make his life difficult.
4. Can't socialize well
Children who are often spoiled by their parents tend to be people who are not sensitive to their surroundings. Because everything they want is always available, children can't imagine or have empathy for other people's circumstances who are not as lucky as themselves.
In addition, children can also become narcissistic individuals or feel themselves better than others. With a character like this, it is not impossible that he will find it difficult to make friends. Children can also be alienated from their environment because they cannot socialize or are not even liked by others.
5. Stubborn and rebellious
If Mom and Dad always do everything the little one wants, he can become stubborn and easily rebellious. Eventually he becomes difficult to manage and likes to fight. In fact, he could have hit Father and Mother or damaged things around him, when what he wanted was not fulfilled.
It's a good thing to love your child with all your heart. However, that doesn't mean Mom and Dad have to give everything that your little one wants without clear boundaries, because this can actually create a bad child's personality.
To avoid the negative impact of spoiling children as described above, you need to be more selective in sorting out which baby desires you can fulfill and which you need to refuse.
If you have difficulty refusing all of your little one's requests or are confused about dealing with your little one who is already spoiled, try consulting a psychologist who specializes in dealing with behavioral problems and child development to get the best advice.
