Many parents feel worried when they see their children are lazy to study. As a solution, many parents choose to send their children to tutoring or tutoring. In fact, not necessarily the solution according to what the child needs.
There is always a reason behind the child's habit of being lazy when asked to study or do homework. If it's extreme, he might lie when asked about his school activities.now, recognizing the cause of lazy children to learn is the first step that must be taken by parents to overcome them.
Causes of Lazy Children to Learn
There are many factors that cause children to be lazy to learn, both physically, mentally, and in a less supportive learning environment. Below are some possible causes for lazy children to learn and their explanations:
1. Difficulty understanding the material
Children tend to avoid subject matter that is difficult for them to understand. Complex material concepts and complex questions often reduce children's learning motivation. In the end, they tend to be reluctant and lazy when studying.
If the child has difficulty understanding the material, parents need to examine the cause to find out whether the difficulty is due to cognitive limitations or due to certain physical disorders, such as difficulty seeing, hearing, or speaking.
2. Less challenging material
Not only difficult material, material that is too easy can make children not enthusiastic about learning. If the material is not challenging enough, children can think, "Why study when I can already do it?"
3. Lack of interest in the topic being studied
Every child has interests in different fields. Children who have an interest in music will certainly be more enthusiastic about learning how to play the piano than memorizing mathematical formulas.
4. Not comfortable with the learning environment
teacher who killer, friends who like to do bullying, or inadequate learning facilities often make children lose motivation to learn. In the end, children will be lazy when asked to learn.
Learning is a complex thought process that requires a lot of energy. So, it is natural for children who have too many activities to be lazy to study, because they feel tired and want to rest.
6. Too many distractions
gadgets, social media, noisy atmosphere, and social activities with friends are the distractions that most often interrupt the learning process. Remember, most children do not yet have strong self-control. If these disturbances are not controlled by parents, children will certainly prefer to do things that they think are more fun than studying.
Tips for Overcoming Lazy Children in Learning
The important role of parents is needed to overcome children who are lazy to learn. In addition to communicating well, parents must also have extra patience in dealing with this condition.
There are several tips that parents whose children are lazy to learn, including:
1. Build communication with children
Before ordering a child to study or registering a child to a tutoring center, parents must first open a communication room with their child. The purpose of this communication is for parents to understand very well what causes children to be lazy to study.
Give your child the opportunity to talk about how he feels about the learning process, what obstacles he faces, and what he wants to help him learn.
2. Invite children to determine their learning goals
Often children think that learning is a mere obligation, because they do not understand the meaning and benefits of the material they are studying. Therefore, parents need to help children to identify their learning goals first. If possible, relate it to the ideals or interests of the child.
For example, if your child wants to be an architect, tell him about the relationship between an architect's work and math, or maybe social studies and history.
3. Get to know your child's learning style
Every child has a different learning style. Some children like to learn by reading, others by listening, while others prefer to practice. By recognizing children's learning styles, parents will find it easier to modify learning materials and systems to suit their children's needs.
4. Guide children to develop their own learning system
Invite children to choose study equipment, arrange study rooms, and set study schedules. The involvement of children in the preparation of the learning system will make them more enthusiastic and responsible.
5. Create a fun learning atmosphere
Children's learning process can take place anywhere, not only in the study room. Parents can take their children to museums to learn about history, to the zoo to learn about flora and fauna, or to other child-friendly educational centers.
6. Respect the learning process, avoid focusing too much on achievement
Many parents are not aware that the expression of their disappointment when their child shows test scores is painful for the child. Children will consider themselves incapable and do not appreciate their own efforts.
Parents need to give appreciation when children show interest and progress in the learning process, no matter how small. Appreciation of the learning process, not on the results, can build a pleasant learning climate for children.
7. So role models
In the learning process, children need examples from their parents. When entering study time, parents need to build a learning climate at home. Parents can accompany their children to study or be nearby while reading books and doing office work.
If when children study, parents play gadgets or watching television, children will consider learning as an obligation that keeps them away from fun activities like their parents did.
Basically, every child is a unique person. Parents need to recognize and understand their child's character first so that they can optimally accompany the learning process. Most importantly, parents need to encourage children to learn out of necessity, not out of necessity.
Arfilla Ahad Dori, M.Psi, Psychologist(Educational Psychologist)