In a love relationship, infidelity can happen. This disloyalty does not only occur physically, but also emotionally, aka cheating on the heart. Some of the signs are that you feel more comfortable, happy, or always want to be with your "special friend" rather than your partner.
Emotional cheating or cheating on the heart is different from physical cheating in that it doesn't involve kissing, hugging, or sexual intercourse. Cheating means sharing a deep emotional bond with someone other than your partner.
Cheating on the heart often starts from a friendship relationship. Who doesn't want to be friends with someone who is easy to talk to, makes you laugh, and can be a place to share joys and sorrows?
But if you start to be attracted to him even a little, chat about your marital problems, or start waiting for a call or news from him, maybe you've been having an emotional affair.
Signs of Cheating Heart
Here are signs of cheating that you often don't realize:
- You start paying attention to your appearance to attract the attention of other people besides your partner.
- Want to share secrets with your friends rather than your partner.
- You start hiding your friendship from your partner.
- Find ways to spend time with your friends instead of your partner.
- You start to withdraw from your partner and pay more attention to the friend.
- You think more about your friends.
- You spend more time with your friends than your partner.
- You start to become sexually attracted to your friend. If you are married, you may not be interested in having sex with your partner.
- You always have reasons to give your friend a gift instead of your partner.
- You feel that your friend understands you better than your partner.
Another way to know that your relationship is beyond friendship is that you feel guilty and look awkward when you and your partner meet your 'friend' in one place.
Come on, start taking care of your partner's feelings
If left unchecked, cheating on your heart can be a trigger for your relationship with your partner to fail. If you feel you are having an affair, it is better to immediately limit the 'relationship' with your friends. The sooner you end it, the better your relationship with your partner will be.
Here are tips you can do to get out of cheating:
- Stopping cheating on your heart must start from yourself. Tell yourself that this relationship is not good and should be stopped.
- After that, keep your distance from your friends. Tell him that you have to do this in order to maintain the household.
- The next step is to find out the root of the problem between you and your partner. Find out why you bond and feel comfortable connecting with other people. Also find out what factors, both from your side or your partner, are making you cheat. Talk honestly about this with your partner. Don't hide anything.
- Also talk about your hopes in building a happy household.
- You can plan a second honeymoon to add to the intimacy of your relationship with your partner.
Whatever the form, cheating is not allowed in a relationship. If you start to realize that you are cheating on yourself, talk to your partner immediately. If that doesn't help, ask a psychologist for advice or take counseling so you don't get trapped in this abyss of cheating on your heart.
