The presence of a sister often triggers feelings of jealousy in her brother. The older brother will usually vent various emotions because he feels the attention and affection from his parents are divided. In order to prevent the appearance of jealousy in the older brother when a new brother is born, come on, apply the following tips, Bun.
There are many forms of jealousy that the older sibling can express towards the new born sibling, for example getting angry for no apparent reason, asking for everything that is given to the younger sibling, throwing and breaking things, or even disturbing and hurting the younger sibling.
This feeling of jealousy is actually quite natural, how come. However, that doesn't mean you can just sit back and let your brother act like that, okay? This kind of jealousy is feared to make the relationship between brother and sister and mother disharmonious and interfere with their social and emotional development.
Tips to Prevent Jealousy of a Brother to a New Sibling
To prevent the negative impact of jealousy from a brother for his sister, Mother needs to make preparations for her brother as early as possible. You can do these ways when your sister is still in the womb, you know.
The following are tips to prevent jealousy from a brother to a newborn sister that you can apply:
1. Notify when there will be a new family member
To prevent jealousy when the younger sibling is born, the first way you can do is to tell the older sibling that there will be a new family member at home. Point your hand to your mother's stomach while saying that there is now a baby sister inside that you can play with someday.
Also tell him that he is going to be a big brother. Mother and other family members can also make new calls for him, for example brother or brother, to grow his maturity and sense of responsibility as an older child.
If the older sibling is under 2 years old, usually he still doesn't understand what it means to have a sibling. To tell her, Mother can show a picture book of family members and explain in simple language or read a story book about the relationship between brother and sister.
2. Teach the older brother to love his sister
Mother has been able to teach brother how to love his sister since he was still in the stomach. Invite him to often sing or talk to the baby in the womb, and kiss and caress Mother's belly. Tell him that if an older brother must love, look after, and protect his sister.
Also teach the older brother how to treat his younger sibling after birth, such as gently rubbing his head, kissing his cheek, or getting him a diaper. Tell him that this will calm the little brother down.
Give praise every time he behaves well with his sister. Say something like, "You're a good big brother, honey. Mother is proud of you." That way, he will feel that what he is doing is right and he will feel worthy.
3. Involve the sister in the moment of pregnancy
Involving the sister in the moment of pregnancy can prevent the emergence of jealousy, you know. Invite the sister to participate when the mother checks her pregnancy so that she can see the face of her sister since she was still in the womb. This can certainly be a happy moment for him.
Mothers can also involve the older sibling in preparing for the needs of the younger sibling, for example when choosing toys, clothes, or other newborn equipment. In addition, you can also ask him to accompany you while doing pregnancy sports.
4. Keep doing routines with Sis as usual
When you are pregnant or your sister is born, of course, your routine will change and become busier. However, try not to make drastic changes to the routine of Mother and Sis, OK?
Keep doing the usual activities with your sibling, such as teaching them to read or write, watching your favorite television show, reading bedtime stories, or gardening. That way, Big Brother will not feel left out and forgotten. This will also avoid the possibility of Brother and Sister becoming
hard to agree later.
Preparing for the arrival of a new baby is very important. However, forming the character of an older brother in the previous child is no less important, Bun. By paying attention to this, children can avoid jealousy and become a good older brother to their younger siblings.
Paying attention to two children at the same time does require patience. However, keep in mind, this is not your job alone. Make sure other family members also don't forget to pay attention and love to the Siblings, especially when the Mother is busy with the Newborn Little One.
If you feel that there is a drastic difference in attitude to your older sibling since the birth of your younger sibling, for example having trouble sleeping, refusing to eat, or being lonely, don't hesitate to ask a psychologist or doctor for advice.
