When compared with women, men's sexual fantasies are usually more wild and mischievous. That is why, many men harbor sexual fantasies. In fact, if properly communicated to partners, sexual fantasies can revive sexual arousal, you know.
In men, sexual fantasies are triggered more by external stimuli, for example from what they see or watch. However, sometimes men's sexual fantasies can also be triggered by desires that arise from within themselves.
Sexual fantasies are actually normal and almost everyone has sexual fantasies. However, the taboo on this subject makes it difficult to discuss or convey it openly.
What Are Men's Sexual Fantasy
The following are sexual fantasies that most often arise in men's minds:
1. Oral sex
Many men fantasize about receiving oral sex from their partners. This fantasy usually arises because of the desire to try new things in sexual relations other than vaginal penetration.
2. Sex with two women at once
Almost every man has a sexual fantasy making love with two women at once, or even more. The reason is, this makes men feel manly or macho when there are many women who want it.
3. Role play
As already mentioned above, men's sexual arousal can be stimulated by what they see. No wonder one of the male sexual fantasies is playing a role. In this fantasy scenario, both parties have specific roles, from a naughty nurse and a patient, to a sexy secretary and her boss.
4. Become a dominant figure
Holding total control during sexual intercourse is a fantasy that quite often men have. With this fantasy, men feel dominant and can control their partner. Not infrequently, this fantasy involves actions such as handcuffing, hitting, and ordering a partner.
5. Become a non-dominant figure
On the other hand, being the non-dominant is also a common fantasy for men. For some men, this kind of fantasy is quite enjoyable because it is contrary to the roles they live in on a daily basis. With this fantasy, men also feel that they are wanted by their partners.
6. Having sex in public
The thought of having sex in public while being watched by other people can trigger a man's sexual desire. However, the realization of this fantasy is dangerous because it has serious legal consequences.
7. Voyeurism
Some men also often fantasize about peeking at sexy women when they are changing clothes or even while having sex. This kind of action is known as voyeurism. However, just like having sex in public, voyeurism is also an unlawful act.
Telling sexual fantasies to your partner can be a step to rekindle sexual desire to be more passionate. However, how to convey it, of course, must be careful so as not to cause your partner to misunderstand.
You can also express your sexual fantasies to your partner indirectly, for example by asking their opinion about sex scenes in a movie you watch. This is a safe way to find out how your partner responds to your sexual fantasies.
Although realizing sexual fantasies can be a way to increase satisfaction during sex, you still have to consider the wishes and conditions of your partner. If he doesn't want to do it, you shouldn't force him. Do not let sexual fantasies ruin the harmony of your relationship.
If your sexual fantasies cause a very strong urge to act that is dangerous or violates laws and social norms, you should consult this matter with a psychiatrist or psychologist. Especially if the urge has caused feelings of restlessness or interferes with your activities.
