Whatever the age of your marriage, you and your partner's sexual life still needs to be taken care of. The reason is, dim or missingintimacy in the sexuality of husband and wife can only reduces the harmony of the household.
The dim sexuality of husband and wife can be caused by many factors. This condition also generally occurs gradually, rarely occurs suddenly. Initially, you may not notice this change.
Detect Husband and Wife Sexual Disorders Since early stage
Don't get me wrong, having sex often doesn't always mean that your sexuality is fine. There are signs in both husband and wife that can serve as a benchmark that your sex life may need improvement.
In husbands, dim sexuality can be characterized by:
- Decreased interest in sex that occurred during the last few months of the year
- The desire to have sex becomes less frequent than usual, like only wanting to have sex once or twice a month
- Intimacy with a partner only occurs in the bedroom
- Sex does not make a connection with a partner established
- Sex doesn't become something fun or just feels like a routine
- Reduced sexual thoughts or fantasies about partners
While in the wife, decreased sexuality can be characterized by:
- Loss of interest in any sexual activity
- No longer having sexual thoughts or fantasies
- Not interested in starting sexual relations
- Difficult to get satisfaction from sexual relations
- Not enjoying when the genitals are felt
- Feeling disturbed about sexual activity
Causes of Disturbed Husband's SexualityWife
Disruption of husband and wife sexuality can be triggered by a decrease in sex drive experienced by one of the partners or both.
In men, decreased sexual desire can be caused by:
- There are psychological problems such as stress, tension, to depression.
- Feeling ashamed or lacking confidence in their ability to satisfy their partner
- Suffering from certain diseases, such as diabetes
- Drug side effects, such as high blood pressure, high cholesterol, or weight loss medications
- The presence of hormonal disorders, such as low testosterone, thyroid hormone imbalance, or imbalance of dopamine levels in the brain
Not too different from men, decreased sexual desire in women can also be caused by psychological and medical problems, including:
- Suffering from certain diseases that cause decreased sexual desire, such as cancer, diabetes, high blood pressure, or arthritis
- Taking drugs that cause a decrease in sex drive, such as antidepressants.
- There are unresolved conflicts with your partner, poor communication, or lack of trust in your partner
- Hormonal changes due to pregnancy, breastfeeding, or menopause
- Feeling that her body is not as attractive as it used to be
- Fatigue, such as tired of caring for children or parents
How to Overcome Sexual Disorders of Husband and Wife
To overcome husband and wife sexuality disorders, the first thing to do is to know in advance the underlying cause. Some things that are usually done to help improve the sexuality of husband and wife, among others:
1. Rebuild intimacy
If your intimacy with your partner has diminished, try to rebuild it. The ways vary, from paying attention, spending more time with your partner, to doing new things together.
In addition, try to give intimate touches between the two of you. If you have free time, the two of you can treat yourself to a vacation together. With increased intimacy, sexual desire can increase again.
2. Talking about sexual life with your partner
Don't hesitate to talk about sexuality between husband and wife with your partner. Try to learn to be open about the desired sexual relationship, including the likes and dislikes.
If your sexual relationship with your partner is monotonous, try another sex position when having sex or have sexual intercourse spontaneously in parts of the house that have never been touched.
If you and your partner are open to experimenting, you can reveal the desired sex games and sexual fantasies, so that sexual arousal returns to life.
3. Manage stress well
If marital sexuality disorders are triggered by stress, try to manage stress properly. The trick is to listen to each other and express what they are worried about. If stress remains unmanageable, you and your partner can consult a psychologist.
4. Undergo counseling
You and your partner may need to consult a sexologist to find out the triggers for decreased sexual desire, especially if this has caused your relationship to deteriorate.
In counseling, you and your partner will be given input on matters relating to the sexuality of husband and wife. Sexologists also provide training so that you and your partner's sexual desire grows again.
During counseling, you and your partner can discuss conflicts that are being experienced or opinions that are reluctant to be expressed directly to your partner. In this way, you and your partner can know what each other wants so that your relationship can get back on track.
5. Changing the drugs consumed
If the decrease in sexual desire is affected by the consumption of certain drugs, try consulting the doctor who gave the drug. Don't hesitate to say that you think the drug reduces sexual desire, so that your doctor can give you a better substitute.
6. Undergoing hormone therapy
If husband and wife sexuality disorders are known to occur due to hormonal imbalances, such as low testosterone levels in husbands, doctors can give drugs containing the hormone testosterone.
For postmenopausal women, low levels of estrogen can reduce sexual arousal in husband and wife. However, this can be treated with hormone replacement therapy or hormone replacement therapy. This therapy can also treat vaginal dryness.
Married life will certainly be accompanied by challenges that take various forms. However, do not let the existing problems stretch communication or even dim the sexuality of husband and wife.
If you feel that you and your partner have decreased sexual arousal, try to talk to both of them nicely. If you can't find a way out, there's nothing wrong with consulting a doctor or psychologist to find out the cause of the sexuality disorder you are experiencing, as well as how to overcome it.
