One of the sexual disorders that can occur in women is vaginismus. In this condition, the muscles around the vagina tighten by itself when something enters the vagina, especially the male genitals during sex.
Vaginismus can make you feel uncomfortable and in pain during sex (dyspareunia). In fact, this condition can make the penis unable to enter at all, or even the penis is trapped which is known as a gancet. Therefore, this sexual disorder can also make it difficult to get pregnant.
These are the Causes and Symptoms of Vaginismus
There is no definite reason why vaginismus can occur. However, some of these conditions can increase a person's risk of developing vaginismus:
- Have experienced sexual violence or trauma during sex in the past
- Have you ever felt pain or didn't enjoy having sex?
- Presence of emotional factors, such as a fear of sex or an anxiety disorder
Vaginismus is divided into 2 types, namely primary and secondary vaginismus. Primary vaginismus is when a woman from the beginning always feels pain every time something enters her vagina, be it a tampon or penis during sexual intercourse.
While secondary vaginismus is a condition when a woman never feels pain when an object enters the vagina or during sex, then suddenly experiences it.
There are several symptoms that can arise when you have vaginismus, namely the muscles around the vagina tightening without your control, a burning sensation when objects enter the vaginal canal, and pain during penetration.
Here's How to Overcome Vaginismus
Many think that vaginismus signifies that women hate sex. Please note that this condition does not affect sexual desire. So, you may want to have sex, but vaginismus prevents this from happening.
To overcome this, you can still how come, enjoy sexual intimacy outside of vaginal penetration, for example with foreplay, intimate massage from husband, and oral sex. However, vaginismus also cannot be left for long and needs to get treatment from a doctor.
When the doctor has diagnosed you with vaginismus, there are several ways that the doctor may recommend, namely:
Sex counseling
This method can be done alone with your husband or alone. Therapy and counseling will be recommended by your doctor if the cause of your vaginismus is a psychological problem, such as trauma or feeling afraid during sex.
Don't hesitate to share your feelings with the counselor. In some cases, relaxation techniques and hypnosis alone can make you comfortable and no longer afraid to have sex.
Do pelvic floor exercise
To help overcome vaginismus, you can do: pelvic floor exercise, such as Kegel exercises. The movements in this exercise aim to tighten the lower pelvic muscles. With stronger pelvic muscles, you will have better control of the muscles around the vagina, thereby reducing pain during intercourse.
Using vaginal dilators
Your doctor or counselor may also recommend that you use a vaginal dilator or vaginal "dilator." This tool is shaped like a tube with a blunt end and comes in various sizes, ranging from the size of a pencil to the size of a penis.
Use of this device must be under the supervision of a professional therapist. How to use it is to place the dilator into the vagina starting from the smallest size. After feeling comfortable with the small dilator, replace the dilator with a larger size above it, until the vagina can be entered by the largest dilator.
Vaginismus can make the sufferer feel very disappointed in himself because he feels he can't please his husband, especially if he actually wants to have normal and intimate sexual relations. If not addressed immediately, it is not impossible that this condition will have a negative impact on the husband and wife relationship.
But take it easy, vaginismus can be overcome, how come. Be kind to your husband that the situation is out of your control and how you feel about it. After that, consult a doctor or psychiatrist to get the right treatment.
