Be careful in making a decision to commit and get married is a natural thing. However, if you are afraid of it excessively, you may experience gamophobia. Come on, recognize what the signs are gamophobia and how to fix it!
Gamophobia is an exaggerated fear of committing and getting married. This phobia can arise due to trauma from past relationship failures or childhood experiences, such as seeing a bad parental relationship or divorce.
Most of the people who gamophobia think that marriage will only add new problems that cannot be solved and they do not want to be trapped in a relationship that is considered complicated.
Recognize the Signs Gamophobia
Not just ordinary fear, the fear experienced by someone gamophobia are long-term and have a direct impact on their personal life, including school or work, for at least 6 months or more.
A gamophobia will also show some psychological symptoms that occur consistently, including:
- Feeling excessive and uncontrollable anxiety when thinking about commitments and future relationships
- Avoid all talk of marriage
- Always thinking about the breakdown of a relationship
- Feeling pressured when in a relationship
- Ending a good relationship because of the need to “run away”
- Avoid serious relationships and prefer relationship without status
Besides, by thinking only about commitment and marriage, a gamophobia it's possible to experience physical symptoms, such as:
- Heart pounding
- Sweating
- Hard to breathe
- Chest pain
- Dizzy
- Nauseous
How to Handle Gamophobia
Even if the patient gamophobia being very afraid to commit, doesn't mean they're reluctant to be romantically involved with someone. Many of them also choose to continue dating their partners without any plans to get married. In fact, there are also those who like to live life by remaining single.
If you are a gamophobia and are in a relationship, the most important thing is to tell your partner from the start about your situation and life choices that make you happy. This is done as an effort to avoid ghosting and hurt your partner.
However, if you want to overcome gamophobia If you are experiencing and want to learn to make a serious commitment in a relationship, there are several ways that might help, including:
Self therapy
Self-therapy is a great way to identify possible reasons why commitment or marriage is such a big fear in your life. After that, think about what you really want and need in a relationship.
Couples therapy
If you and your partner want to create a committed relationship for marriage, but something is getting in the way and preventing you from taking a step toward commitment, couples therapy may be for you.
So that you and your partner can practice making commitments together, try the following:
- Spend the weekend together, for example out of town.
- Get in the habit of holding hands in public or around people you know.
- Talk about things you want to do together during the holidays.
- Make a plan every time you will do activities with your partner a week, 2 weeks, or a month in advance, to challenge yourself to live that plan.
- Try walking around while looking apartment or a house, and think about what it would be like to share a home with your partner.
Consult a therapist
If you have trouble, you can ask for help from a psychologist or psychiatrist to deal with the phobia you are experiencing. A psychologist or psychiatrist can help explore the reasons why you're afraid to commit and find ways to work around it. For example, by providing counseling, psychotherapy, or cognitive behavioral therapy.
Medication is usually not required in the treatment of a specific phobia. However, if you have panic attacks, anxiety, and depression, your psychiatrist may prescribe some antidepressant medication.
So, if your partner or yourself experience this condition gamophobia and find it difficult to handle it yourself, don't hesitate to consult a psychologist to get the right advice and treatment, so that you and your partner can carry out a joint commitment without a hitch.
